Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Hardly victims

If the Ramsey family is truly not culpable in the death of daughter, Jon Benet Ramsey, as today's news reports would indicate, then they indeed our owed an apology and our "guilty until proven innocent" society should be ashamed.
Still, Boulder District Attorney Mary Lacy's assertion that they should now be regarded as victims is, at best, laughable, and, at worst, unstomachable. They are as much victims as O.J. Simpson is a victim. The Ramsey's (God rest, Patsy) behavior, from the onset of this case was never the behavior of victims. They were hollow and when they were emotional, it didn't ring true. When it was the time to legitimately look for the murderer of their daughter, they were insolent, hiding behind lawyers rather than helping cops with an (admittedly) bungled investigation.
Yes, we as a society and a media, deserve our share of blame for convicting this family. But this family is also to blame for putting themselves on the stand, through their actions, and making themselves to be much more than grieving parents.
DNA, be damned, there will be some people who will always believe the Ramsey's were involved in their daughter's death. Unfortunate but true.
The pain of losing a child is unbearable. I know parents who have lost children, I've sat with them, I've seen their pain, dreams of high school and college graduations, weddings and grandchildren dashed.
I know victims.
You, Ramsey family, are no victims.